Dealing with shit.

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Hey y'all.

Overall I've had a shitty week. From struggling to balance an increasing workload, schoolwork and family shit I haven't had much time to be online. I recently was told my great-grandfather, the man who inspired me to pursue a military career and worked his ass off so he could send our family to college has developed terminal lung cancer. Anyone else had experience with losing a close family member to something like this? He was getting on in years as he is 98 but it still sucked to hear about.

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Cancer is a son of a bitch, especially in elders. They should have a decent end, instead of a shitty and painful death.

I lost my mom past November to colon cancer and my dad 10 years ago to lung cancer. They where in their 80's in both cases but enjoyed a relatively good health, until the cancer diagnostic.

It may sound rude, but you should hope for a quick demise. The worst of cancer is watching your loved ones suffer and flicker, when they were once full of life.

Tresure every moment you live with him, for that way he will be with you the rest of your life.
 
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My dad was taken by cancer. (I wasn't close with him but it's somewhat relevant). My grandfather is 91 and I'm waiting for his day to come. He had Tripple bypass while I was just getting ramped up in my new assignment in the military, so I understand having the stress then adding the fear of losing a family member on top of it. You have to breathe, take nice long hot showers and try to calm that anxiety in your chest down by clearing your head. If you can find time for friends, surround yourself with people who just enjoy your company. You don't have to vent to them, just enjoy being around them and bring up how you feel casually, just don't spend too long on it or get too deep. That time will come later in life when you are dealing with grief. You got this buddy, your grandfather sounds like an amazing man, and a pillar in your family. I wish him all the best as just by reading what you typed, I can tell he lived a wonderful life and his family is super proud.
 
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makute said:
Cancer is a son of a bitch, especially in elders. They should have a decent end, instead of a shitty and painful death.

I lost my mom past November to colon cancer and my dad 10 years ago to lung cancer. They where in their 80's in both cases but enjoyed a relatively good health, until the cancer diagnostic.

It may sound rude, but you should hope for a quick demise. The worst of cancer is watching your loved ones suffer and flicker, when they were once full of life.

Tresure every moment you live with him, for that way he will be with you the rest of your life.
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Sorry to hear about your grandfather. :(
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Jolly_Green_Giant said:
My dad was taken by cancer. (I wasn't close with him but it's somewhat relevant). My grandfather is 91 and I'm waiting for his day to come. He had Tripple bypass while I was just getting ramped up in my new assignment in the military, so I understand having the stress then adding the fear of losing a family member on top of it. You have to breathe, take nice long hot showers and try to calm that anxiety in your chest down by clearing your head. If you can find time for friends, surround yourself with people who just enjoy your company. You don't have to vent to them, just enjoy being around them and bring up how you feel casually, just don't spend too long on it or get too deep. That time will come later in life when you are dealing with grief. You got this buddy, your grandfather sounds like an amazing man, and a pillar in your family. I wish him all the best as just by reading what you typed, I can tell he lived a wonderful life and his family is super proud.
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Thanks for the advice and stories guys. Just trying to vent a bit.
 
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Vent away brother. We are here to listen and help.
Crude and I are in Western Canada as we speak. We lost our Grandpa last week. He was 96. He we ready to go, but that doesn't make it any easier to those of us who are still here. It wasn't cancer that took him, but I think the loss of a loved one is relevant nonetheless. He was a huge part of our lives growing up.
 
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Wolfy said:
Hey y'all.

Overall I've had a shitty week. From struggling to balance an increasing workload, schoolwork and family shit I haven't had much time to be online. I recently was told my great-grandfather, the man who inspired me to pursue a military career and worked his ass off so he could send our family to college has developed terminal lung cancer. Anyone else had experience with losing a close family member to something like this? He was getting on in years as he is 98 but it still sucked to hear about.

I still expect everyone to vote for Space Kitty's!
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I'm sorry to hear about this thats a tough week my mother almost died from uterous cancer but they got her into remission with kemo years and years ago. She is still kicking but i know her health these days is not so great either lots of problems forming. Other than that the only close family member i had pass on me was my uncle Arl when i was a kid he died from AIDS. At the time i didnt know how to take it as he was my favorite uncle. At first i didnt cry which upset my father i just stood there after he told me. I ended up crying a week later once i finally realized he wasnt comming back. For every person its different on how they take things also age matters I havnt had a close family member pass recently.
 
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My condolences. It is tough no matter what age they are.

I lost my grandfather to cancer when he was 76. He was more of a father to me and taught me what it was to be a man. 22 years later there are still things of his that I hold onto and even use. I still use his old Circular Saw that is probably getting close to 30 years old now.

My wife's Sister-in-law is losing her struggle with cancer as well and has recently gone on hospice. My kids are really close to her and it has been tough watching them have to go through this as well as my wife and brother-in-law. She really was his soulmate.

Just try and keep up beet and living your life, because that is what they will want for you.
 
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Wolfy said:
Hey y'all.

Overall I've had a shitty week. From struggling to balance an increasing workload, schoolwork and family shit I haven't had much time to be online. I recently was told my great-grandfather, the man who inspired me to pursue a military career and worked his ass off so he could send our family to college has developed terminal lung cancer. Anyone else had experience with losing a close family member to something like this? He was getting on in years as he is 98 but it still sucked to hear about.

I still expect everyone to vote for Space Kitty's!
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My father died of cancer, and so did one of the people I was named for (edit: This person was one of my father’s best friends, our next door neighbor, and the closest thing I had to a grandfather.) So yeah, I know how shitty a diagnosis it is.

That said, don't worry about the game, or really, even Test. Yes, we will be here for you when things get a little rough, but right now, spend time with your great-grandfather. If he can, get him to tell you stories of his past. Better yet, write them down or record him doing so and then transcribe them later. How did he meet and court your great-grandmother? What were his favorite moments with your mom or dad when he/she was a kid? How did WWII impact him? If he was military during the war (or even after), get him to tell stories of stuff he and his buddies got into. Maybe even contact the branch of the military he was in and see if there are any others from his unit that are still alive and might be able to give him a call. You probably won't get any of the battle stories out of him, but talk of everyday life. Also, tell him about your experiences and how they might match or differ. Tell him how proud you are to be his great-grandchild and how much you look up to him and admire him. Tell him how much you love him.

Tell him now, before it's too late

View: https://youtu.be/uGDA0Hecw1k
 
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I was expecting to here about a new concept shit tanker sadly re life is worsed.

The better someone is in life the more you miss them so just remember the first bit.
 
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