Not sure how you keep on the straight and level I imagine I'd be shot. Then again perhaps you'll be able to impart enough wisdom that when we have 22-year-old daughters ourselves we will be as wise as you.
I don't know how successful or wise I am as "Dad" I think the jury is still out. So far, out of 6 kids... no murderers, nobody in jail, though it came close more than once. I figured something out when my oldest was 5.
You can't really raise responsible children by being an autocratic ass. I was, but I changed. I explain it like this. Sometimes people quote a line from the Christian Bible that goes something like "Spare the rod, spoil the child". Except, that line does not appear in the Bible, nor does any line even remotely like it. It compares the rod of discipline not as a club, but as a shepherd's staff. That's a guiding tool, that shepherds use to steer a wayward lamb, by planting it in front of them when they're going the wrong way. And the hook on the top, isn't for beating him, it's to grab him away from danger. That's how it's used. And, er... We eat the lambs so, the whole thing kind of breaks down when used for children that you want to survive.