Disagree. To me feminism = feminism (1st, 2nd, 3rd wave, or otherwise). Feminism to me is that women want to be treated the same as men...period. So, the best way to illustrate this is to ask yourself if L. Skywalker was always a 'female' and Ray was always a 'male' character in the Star Wars movies, would you have the same distaste for the scene you described? In other words, would you be espousing radical masculinity as a great injustice to women because Skywalker was depreciated and humiliated due to Ray's attitude?
Keep in mind, the scene has not changed in any way - only the sex of the character. If your view of how offended you are about the scene changes, maybe you should ask yourself why that is?
Personally I did not like the movie, but yet my sense of masculinity was not threatened by a movie scene where a male character had a sense of emotional depth whereas the female character was more sure footed and voiced her opinion.
Here are my thoughts on the first two movies. Honestly, I’ve never been able to sit through/stay awake through the third movie, so K won’t be commenting on it.
1) don’t care if Rey or Ray. Characters were decent outside of Kylo Ren acting like an absolute boor that needed to be spanked more as a child. The fact that Finn was not of Māori descent was explained well enough, so again, no big deal. My only issue with TFA was that they recycled too many of the fighter action scenes. There was nothing really new, nothing groundbreaking like the original trench run, the original walker scene from empire, etc. it was just a re-tread. That was the only (but a major) reason why I panned that movie.
2) the complete idiocy of how TLJ was run was just bad though. The space bombs for instance, the whole girls clique, etc. if you swapped out the women for men and the men for women and they acted in a similar manner, even more people would have been up in arms about it…and rightfully so. The writing was horrible, the physics wa stupefying. It almost looked like the directors/writers believed that the ships were sailing on water on planet earth and they were portraying a battleship engagement from WW I or WWII. This was one of the worst Star Wars movies I have ever seen, and I saw the Ewok Christmas Special.
the way they treated the force in both movies was also a major issue and one that felt just as bad and out of place as midicloreans did in TFM
Captain Marvel has some “Girl Power” in it too, but honestly it felt “in place”. Let’s face it, armed forces aviators had a bad rep back when that movie was set. (Google Tailhook Scandal). It was very believable the stuff they showed her “going though“ while growing up.
anyway, I still dislike the SW movies, but it’s not because of the characters being male or female, but because the reasoning behind the characters. (movie 2). While,my dislike of movie 1 was just the way they constructed some major components of the movie.